welcoming a year of positive verbs

Can you believe it? 2014 is here! How do you feel about last year being over? If you’re like me, you’ve never been happier to see the start of a new year and to throw that old calendar in the trash.

Although I’ve been feeling a little under the weather and didn’t quite ring in the New Year as my youthful self was hoping for (think noisemakers, champagne in excess, high heels and fake-eyelashes), the way it ended up was absolutely perfect. I spent it surrounded by love: my family, my wonderful boyfriend and his family that have welcomed me into their lives. I enjoyed lunch with my best friend, drinks at my favourite bar, took in the beauty of the night sky, a midnight struck by candlelight.

Despite being overjoyed that 2013 is now just another year gone by, I have to reflect on all that I’ve learned this past year; about myself, about others, and about life. I have found a strength in me that I didn’t know existed. I learned about resiliency, and how it actually is possible to get through anything. I learned about deception. I learned about loss. I learned about love. I learned that I actually do have the choice to make my life what I want it to be.

Choice. Life is all about choices. Good ones, bad ones, ones that surprise you, ones you may regret.

Merriam-Webster describes ‘choice’ as being “the power, right, or opportunity to choose.” It’s so simple. Choice boil down to the simplest of verbs: you can do or not do, and the possibilities of ‘what’ are absolutely endless. You choose to react, ignore, learn, move-on… As I enter into 2014, this is the lens that I am going to be looking through. What verbs do I want to accomplish this year?

I made a list of my 2014 Verbs below. These are the things that are important to me; everything from learn Spanish and simplify, to knit, appreciate and forgive. You will see that the most prominent one, and the one that I want reflected in everything is “love.”

I spent a great deal of 2013 doing things that didn’t make me happy. Resenting, hurting, blaming, and regretting seeped a lot of energy from my spirit. These things stunted my ability to enjoy a lot of the pleasures of life, and to be grateful for the positive things that surrounded me. They tarnished how I saw myself and the filter that I used for the rest of the world. Luckily, I have the choice to not have these things play such a significant role in the fresh new year that has begun.

There will be days when feelings of sadness, regret and hurt will appear. Maybe they’ll be triggered by a memory, or a milestone date. If you have a past that haunts, what I hope I can impart on you, and what I hope I can do myself, is to grant yourself permission to feel that emotion. You’re allowed to hurt. You’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to feel angry for something you went though. But you’re also allowed to choose how long you let it consume you. Maybe you need to give yourself an hour to have an absolute melt-down. Or maybe its a whole evening affair. Whatever you need to do, do it knowing that you will take that exact amount of time you need, and then you can get back on your feet again and keep living this fantastic life that you have chosen to live. Be sad for what you went through, but be happy that whatever it was made you a great person and got you right here, to this moment – to 2014!

Happy New Year to you! May it be happy and full of love.