I’m a week in to my #30DaysofBrave Challenge and what I have learned so far is that a major roadblock for me living a fearless life is centered around communication. The times that I have felt both challenged and empowered over the past few weeks have been the times where I have had intentional conversations about uncomfortable subjects.
I have recognized that a life of fearlessness is not achieved by avoiding conversations that are difficult but important. Being fearless means facing these challenging situations head on.
I have always tried to be conflict-averse; to not rock the boat, hurt feelings, or seem needy/immature/demanding/etc. (this stems from being a person who deals with anxiety). When someone does something or says something that hurts me, I tend to harbour it deep down inside instead of just saying, “Hey, let’s talk about how that thing you said/did made me feel.” This goes for all my relationships: with family, friends, employers, colleagues, teachers.
As part of the #30DaysofBrave Challenge, I have been pushing myself to start these important conversations that push the boundaries of my comfort zone. I have shared my opinion of what I believe my value and worth is (I prepped by watching Casey Brown’s TedTalk “Know your worth and then ask for it.”). I shared the 5 Languages of Love assessment with my partner to start the discussion of how we express and feel loved. I have had to fess up to feelings of stress, fear, and exhaustion so that I can get the support and reassurance that I need to move forward.
Opening up is hard. Sometimes, difficult experiences can lead you to live a life of fear, of suppressed emotions, and of complacency. The only thing that can break this cycle is choosing to be brave.
Look in the mirror today and tell yourself, “I deserve the life that I want.” Only when you believe that will you be able to cultivate the spirit inside you to get it. Know your worth. Teach people how you expect to be treated. Tell people when they hurt you. Have uncomfortable conversations. Ask for that raise. And above all else, don’t be afraid to love. Nobody else can do this life for you, so it’s your job to make it a good one. Because you do deserve it.
Be fearless, my darlings.
I’m not sure how it happened. Maybe it stems from being bullied as a child. Or maybe it’s from my exposure to major health crises at a young age. It could be society’s influence. Or maybe it’s just me. Either way, I have spent the majority of my life filled with fear. And I must say, I’m getting pretty tired of it. Continue reading “from fearful to fearless”
It comes as no surprise to me now how drawn to the water I was over the past year. When I needed healing, or grace, or a place to go and just be alone, it was the water’s edge that I chose. But why? Continue reading “changing tides”
This is the weekend that the stars were supposed to align.
We had picked the date because it was a New Moon*: a time of fresh beginnings and new challenges. The start of the next chapter of life. This was the day that I’d finally get a check mark on that ungodly “Life Check-List”. The check-list that I have spent my entire life worrying about, and striving for – but mostly, of not measuring up against. It was finally my time.
And then I realized it wasn’t. Continue reading “just not today”
I’ve talked about it a lot on here: mindfulness. About how you bring into your life whatever you spend your energy thinking about. It the whole concept touted by “The Secret,” “Instructions for happiness and success,” and thousands of other self-help titles and teachings. And I believe it – truly I do! But sometimes it’s hard to maintain that positive attitude. Especially when you’re stumbling over challenges, fears, and what feels to be a million other forces that are working against you. So what do you do? Continue reading “mindfulness and carnies: a life analogy”
I can hardly believe that it’s mid-August already. Where did the summer go?! Life has been quite busy since my last post, and I anticipate nothing but the same in the coming weeks and months. I’ll try not to neglect you, dear readers, too much. Today, I’ll give you a brief update on what’s been goin’ on, and also let you in on some things that are coming down the line. Continue reading “how is summer almost over?”
Back in October, after returning home from Cuba 10lbs heavier than when I had left, I decided (for the millionth time) that I needed to make a change. As if by divine intervention, I saw a post on Instagram about FitGirlsGuide and their #28DayJumpStart program.
I joined the FitGirl community on October 27th. I lasted two weeks. Continue reading “Tell All Tuesday: FitGirl”